So I’ve been thinking over a little something. This mind state about having a sense of plan. This is very important. People who don’t have a plan or sense of direction become very unhappy very quickly. Feel like their life is heading nowhere and that they are not important. Often in life it seems like everyone around us always have it worked out. They know where they’re going and what they want to do. If you’re anything like me, then you’re probably sitting there thinking “what the fuck even is life”, and you have no idea where you’re headed. You might be wondering what you do in a situation like this. How do you make the first step when you don’t know which path to walk on? It can seem very daunting and confusing. All you have to do is decide.
Success comes from the willingness to make mistakes. The pessimist would say that the more decisions you make in life, the more chances of failure you have. The optimist would say that the more decisions you make, the more chances of success you will have. I think both are true. The problem is how we perceive a mistake. A lot of people have this perception that a mistake is a failure or a weakness. People let mistakes define their lives. If I make a mistake at something where my brother did not, does that me any less valuable than him? Or less of a person? That all comes down to how we value our mistake. We can beat ourselves up about mistakes or use them as a platform to spring forward. In some cases mistakes will teach you about how to handle a situation much better, or how to get the best out of something. So in a way, the man who doesn’t make the mistake has learnt so much less. Arnold Schwarzenegger always said “Don’t be paralysed by the fear of failure, or you will never push yourself”.
So I think first things first is to say yes to opportunity. If you are without a job. Just get a job. Don’t think yourself to be above working at a fast food joint. It will open up some possibilities for you. You have to start from the bottom of the ladder. The key is to start, you will get to the top one day, but you will never make it if you don’t start from the bottom. Just do things because you like doing them. If you want to be happy then do things that make you happy. Why would you look at your life and say “I want to do this job because it gives me a lot of money”. If you don’t enjoy what you do, the money will never help you. Why would you earn money so that you can feed yourself and put a roof over your head and live so that you can go and do that job that you hate? Just so you can earn enough to go back the next day and keep spending the majority of your time being unhappy? I personally would rather earn a lot less and live a lot more.
So how do you decide what to do. Where do you find your road in this life. The thing is that your road isn’t even made yet. You have to be the first one to tread foot on the road that you take. Life’s an adventure, not a tiki tour. You don’t have to know where you are headed to make the first step. Start saying yes to opportunity. When Im presented an opportunity, and I’m not sure if I should take it, I ask myself two questions. “Can I afford to do this”. Can I afford the money, time and commitment. The second question is: “Will I regret it if I don’t do it”. If both answers are yes, then that is all I need.
It can be really daunting coming to your last year of school and everyone around you seems to have it worked out. They already know what they want to study next year. And that’s totally fine for them. If you’re not ready to study and you don’t know what you want in life; DON’T SPEND MONEY AND TIME ON A EDUCATION THAT YOU DON’T ACTUALLY CARE ABOUT. If you choose to study something, do it because you believe in what you are doing. Don’t feel pressure by friends or family. Especially your parents. If you go into tertiary study for gratification, to feel like you are someone or to prove something to your parents, you will most likely out. Simply because you wont care enough about what you are doing.
Your grades do not define you. If you didn’t do very well in math or English or whatever, it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t even matter if you were lazy and couldn’t be bothered doing the study. If it wasn’t something that you were passionate about, then the likelihood of you needing that certificate is next to none.
Always remember that every person is different. You can’t do some things as well as some other people can. That’s just fact. There are things that you can do, and strengths that you have, which no one else has. That’s what makes you unique, it’s what makes you important. You have something to offer. You might not even know what it is yet. So you have to learn a bit more about yourself. For myself personally, im going to travel. Next year in January I will leave for Australia and then later Canada and Scotland, perhaps more. Be someone who makes decisions.
In a way, you can have a sense of plan. Even if you don’t know where your headed, just make the first step.